Female, student, friend, advocate, sister, daughter, leader. All words
which identify who I am. However, it was not until recently that I added
a new identifier to my list—first generation.
If you would have asked me four years ago as I entered college, “What does
it mean to be a first generation college student?” I would have looked at
you blankly because I would not have had a clue about what you were asking
me. It was not until recently that I learned what it actually meant to be
a first generation college student and that I am in fact one. I find it
strange that that I made it through four years of college and it was not until
I started my Master’s program in Student Affairs that I truly understood the
term. What is even more bizarre is the fact that I ended up on the
Student Affairs route. How does a first generation student like myself,
someone who going into college knew absolutely nothing about collegiate life,
student activities, admissions processes, advising and the like, end up
pursuing a career in it?
I attended Dominican University, a liberal arts college outside of Chicago,
where I began my time there like most undergrads—confused, uninformed, and
uninvolved. Did I want to attend college? In some capacity, yes,
but for the most part as a first year student, the only reason I was there was
to get a degree so I could “get a good job and make a lot of money”—at least
this was the ideal instilled in my head by my parents and the rest of society.
However, when I got to college I realized that money was not going to
make me happy. I decided to double major in Photography and Painting, a
field that does not bring in much money, much to my parents dismay. I do
not come from a poor family, but I do not come from a rich family either.
I would say we are comfortable, yet it always feels like we are always living
paycheck-to-paycheck. My parents always wanted my sister and I to have
the life they did not so attending college and attaining a bachelor’s degree
was necessary. I scared them when I told them I wanted to study
art—mainly because I was attending a university that cost $33, 000 a year and I
was taking out about $20,000 a year in loans to pay for it. Pursing a
career that brought in less a year than my undergraduate tuition worried them.
They lightened up eventually and supported my decision. Though, they still hate
how much debt I have accumulated over the four years. However, as you can
see from this story, I did not pursue art post-graduation. Something
happened while I was at DU that put me on a different career path.
During my sophomore year, my mentality did a complete turnover. The
summer before my sophomore year, I was an orientation leader for new student
orientation—it was that experience which opened my eyes to a completely new
world of ideas and experiences. I began to learn more about the college
processes and why being involved as an undergrad was so important. That
fall I began to further explore campus activities by becoming a student worker
in Dominican’s, Student Involvement Resource Center (SIRC). This office
quickly became my home-away-home. Although I resided on campus, I spent
most of my time in the SIRC—the people I worked with became my family and the
staff was my mentors. It was this position as a student worker and a
simple sentence spoken by my supervisor, Rachel that put me on the path to
student affairs. I was working one day, and I had not been working more
than half a semester when Rachel came in to the SIRC and told me that she
wanted to promote me to Senior Student Worker the next year. I was blown
away! Was I that great of a worker? I did not think I was a bad
worker, but I did not see myself as Senior Student Worker material
either. However, Rachel saw something else in me that I did not—especially
if she told me she wanted to promote me an entire year before I would even get
the promotion. Rachel’s confidence in me is what helped me form the
confidence I needed to put myself on student affairs track and take on the
different student leadership opportunities that I did throughout my time at DU.
After that, the rest is history. I continued my involvement in extra curriculars throughout my time in college which included holding executive board positions in our Student Government and Programming Board, as well as being a Student Ambassador, and Student Minister. It was these experiences, and those that I worked with that put me on the path to student affairs. I love college, and working with college students. Being a college student was the most rewarding time of my life, and I want to be there for students and help them experience how wonderful a college education can be.
Something interesting is happening. There are more first generation students working and studying in student affairs than people think. We are interested in collecting and sharing stories about people’s experiences as first generation students working and studying in student affairs. We are especially interested in why people chose to go into student affairs. This blog is a place to find connections, inspire others, and be inspired. Every Gen is welcome to contribute here.
Nicci,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story! Although I'm not a 1st-gen student, I can definitely connect with your experience as an orientation leader. The same experience is what brought me into student affairs. Just yesterday, I opened a book, and out fell a picture of the 13 orientation leaders I worked with. Today, 7 of them are either student affairs graduate students or about to be. I saw four of them at TPE.
As I move through the job search process, I think of people like Rachel, who you described--those people who saw something in me that I didn't see in myself. It's those people that continue to reaffirm my belief that I WILL get a job before the next academic year starts--because people continue to believe in me, like you describe Rachel doing for you. The greatest part is that we get to be "Rachels" for students now! :)